There is a particular sentence women say, almost word for word, and it is worth quoting because recognising it is half the point of this page.
“I have never been an anxious person.”
That is the tell. Not the severity, the unfamiliarity. Anxiety that has been with you since your twenties is a known quantity, however unpleasant. Anxiety that arrives at forty-three, in a person who has spent two decades being the calm one in a crisis, is a change, and changes have causes.
Why it happens
Oestrogen is not only a reproductive hormone. It modulates serotonin availability and noradrenaline regulation in the brain directly, which is why the steep fluctuations of perimenopause, rather than the eventual low level, are what correlate most strongly with mood symptoms. It is the variability that does it. That also explains why so many women describe good weeks and terrible weeks rather than a steady decline.
What this page is not saying
It is not saying that every difficult feeling in your forties is hormonal. Your forties are frequently a decade of genuinely hard things: ageing parents, teenagers, career ceilings, marriages that are either working or not. Those are real, and treating them as a hormone problem is its own kind of dismissal.
What it is saying is that if the feeling does not match the circumstances, if the intensity is out of proportion, or if it arrives in the body before it arrives in your thoughts, then hormones belong on the list of things being considered. For a great many women they have never once been mentioned.